RAPE THE 4 LETTER WORD

"RAPE" the 4 letter word which is now being used almost every second day.

The more we hear about it the harder our hearts are getting.

I've spend a lot of time as a girl staying away from that word. 

But all of us are not that lucky. We have seen the worst case in Delhi and now we see this,

New case that took place in GOA.

Most of my life I have believed that RAPE is done by uneducated man, who neither have brains nor a heart. 

But to hear that a journalist of such success can fall to the deepest of hell tunnel as like in the inferno troubles me. 

The more I think about it the more I get a feeling that success can also get to ones head. That's the only way someone like Tarun Tejpal can get his hand up a girls skirt even when she is asking him to stop and that to twice in the same week. This man should be in jail and not giving his own verdict like he hasn't done anything wrong.

Hypocrites are the likes of Tarun Tejpal and Soma Chaudhury. They say one thing and end up doing another. 

Soma says herself that most rape victims are raped by people they know well, these people are a part of their day to day life. So then what does she do when the girl who is the victim in the Tarun Tejpal case contacts her?

The answer is nothing she tries her level best to cover it up, by trying to find an internal solution. Then She is seen on the diffident TV NEWS channels says "I did what I thought right. Tarun has his side of the story. You have to here his side of the story too." 

Well Ms. Soma Chaudhary the truth is you being a leading lady of the newspaper you didn't behave like the Women Rights Leader you claim to be. You did NOT go to the police as per Porto call, you did not register a complaint. You didn't even have the committee set up needed to handle such a case in your office. On the other hand all you tried to do was SAVE YOUR JOB on TV and OFF it.

I would like to point out that Tarun Tejpal and Soma Chaudhary would have made a big hugh and cry about this issue had it happened and come to light with another newspaper involved. They would have been the first to call for both resignations and for jail time for the accused, as for the person who tried to cover it up, they would have called it hinderance in the process of law or something. 

They would have bad mouth them for months to come and year on end.

I cannot understand how someone can take advantage of a girl who he has seen growing up before his own eyes, a girl who is his daughter age and his daughter best friend, a girl who looks up to him, a girl who needed the job, a girl who he should have know was strong willed and independent.

All I can say is that I am proved of this girl, knowing the odds she will have to face once the case is out in the public domain, she was strong enough to bring it out for these hypocrites to come face to face with their hypocrisy.

In my eyes I can't trust anyone anymore, Cause when the know can ends up doing what Mr Tejpal did and the unknown looks like the Delhi Rape Case. I can't even tell what is worse now.

All I can say is that all you beautiful, strong, independent women, should raise your voices so loud against this that even the GODS should hear you and understand the angry you feel. Don't let anyone underestimate you. 

BE THE MAHA KALI YOU ARE. 

TIME

Without realising it its been 1 and a half year that I've been living in Mumbai.

Today when I look at it I realise it been 6 yrs since I've left school.

In this time frame so many things have changed, so many new things have

happened that now I am at a lose of words to describe them.

The change from Pune to Mumbai was a big leap.

I had never thought I would come live here, but I guess what happens,

happens for the best.

If u had asked me some years back what I wanted to do, I would have said

styling for films. I did'nt have a clue how that was going to happen but I

was sure I wanted to do that.

If u asked be about my personal life I would have said I know what I want,

with who I want to spend my life and how I am going to do it.

Today if u ask me the same questions on my life my answers will be completely

different.

One thing that time has shown me is not to hold on to anything to tight cause

then that will be the thing u loss the first.

Today I have all the answers to the question u asked me about work.

I am working towards my dreams when it comes to my work.

If u ask me about my personal life, I will tell u that I have a wonderful family.

They are the most loving, caring and happy go lucky people u will ever find.

I want them to be with me forever. Their place is in my heart and no matter

what happens they will alway hold their place there.

Cause there is only one thing that doesn't change and thats the love our

familys have for us.

Their support keeps us motived and they smiles keep the batteries in us

chagered.

And they are the people I want to spend my life with.

For some very strange reason I feel that the place I stand in now is the

right place for me.

Its my save places.

Though there r changes in my life, they have only brought a more postive

change which is important.

I wish and pray to God that, whoever u r, wherever u r, times should bring

u change, which give u the strength to make the change a postive one.

GOD BLESS

MALLIKA

Family always with u no matter what :D

CHOICES :D

I have been thinking for the last 2 days about a topic on which I could write this a blog. I really cant make up my mind there are a lot of options in today date and time. I don't understand how everyone expects us to make the right choices. Cause everyone seems to forget that a choice, being right or wrong is subjective in nature.

When we are 3yrs old our family members make the choices of which school to but us, when we are in out 8th the entire family comes to give tell us what they think we should take up in our Jr.College, at this stage even our friends, there family and people standing in the college admission line like to give us some advise on what field to take between Arts, Science etc.. For me this choices was made in 10th and my mom, let me make my own choice of field and subjects that I wanted to study cause at the end of the day it was me who had to go to class and write the exam. But this does not mean that people did not come with their advise to me.

Anyhow my choice worked out to be right for me. But there are other people out there who have made mistakes by choosing the wrong subjects and some of them under pressure have also chosen the wrong field altogether. Then there is the choice of college, which lucky or unlucky is depend on the marks and field u choose. Then if u don't get into the right college everyone will come to give u advise about all kinds and types of thing.

Should we as a society subject each other to these kind of pressures. We have in the past seen the negative effects of these social evils. Young kids committing suicides and trying to runway from home.

These are the choices we face at a young age, they end up making or braking us as a person. So how does on understand or get to know in the start itself the outcome of the choice?

Then there are more choices that are of important's such who to start dating, who to make friends with, who to married to?, etc. and at different stages one will get different advise from everyone around, but at the end of the day the choices are ours to make and no one is to blame for them. In the start this is a little difficult to follow, but we have to at some age start to take the blame or credit for our choices.

I have made a lot of choices some have been right some have been wrong but the only difference between me and most others is the fact that I can now look back and say that all my choices whether good or bad have been mine. I am whole and solely responsible for them. This attitude of mine will take me a long way in my future I wish other follow my example and start taking the strings of their life in their own hand.

So wake up make ur own choices, don't let ur thoughts pull u down cause no matter how much us think about the outcome of a choice it will not be know till the end. Some times a choice that was good at the start ends up being a bad choice and sometimes a bad choice truns out to be a good one. All in all one can never tell for sure, there is only one thing to do in that case "GO WITH THE FLOW" don't fight the current cause that may not be the right thing to do or who know that may just be the right thing. Let not forget that there are chances that the right choice in ur eyes is the wrong one in mine and the other way around as well.

IN THE END WHO KNOW ?

MY ANSWER WILL BE GOD KNOW... :D

But then again u are the best judge of ur surrounding and u can help ur life make the right choice. So have faith in ur choices, take everyone's advise but make ur own choice.

A very wise man has said the choices is between the Good and Better or Bad and Worse. Because in the choice of Bad and Good we but naturally choice the Good.

That all I have to say today. Ones again thank u for ur time and sorry for the mistakes I may have made while writing this blog.

Some people..... Arghhhhh...

U know there are these people in ones life who always have a bad sense timing, everyone of us has one of these kind in our life's and one such person in my life these days is Ajinkya Wadhwa. He was in the same Jr. College as me. I study Arts and he was studying Science then. Most people at that time had problems with the both of us at some level or another. U know when ur in college there is no reason for some one to dislike u or like u. Not that Ajinkya and I spoke that much in college, both of us at our own levels are introvert people.

The thing about facebook is that u meet all ur long lost friends, school and college people on there somewhere. So as most of us long lost friends meet these day we meet up on facebook. Well coming to the point, the only reason I am writing this blog about him is because he challenged me that I cant write about him as I don't know him that much. So this is to prove to him that even if I don't know small things about a personal life, I am a good reader of the negatives and positives in them, if not correct they are generally very close to being prefect.

For some reason in college Ajinkya was not liked by many people as I have mentioned before. I think college is a strange stage in ones life, but that it is also the time in ones life when we make the most important decisions of ur life. The direction we choose at that time is the one that makes us or breaks us in the long run. Ajinkya had at that time a passout from St Mary's Boy High School and gotten into the best college in Pune for Science F.C (short for Fergusson College) I don't think he liked school much, nor do I think he was interested in college, with Ajinkya u feel everything he does is a task and not liking school or college with him is normal. I sometimes think he doesn't like people either.

He only talked to like 3 people in college, I was on of the lucky ones :P if u want to call it that. It could also be cause of the fact that I never thought much of him or anyone else so we had almost the same thinking. Ajinkya was least affect or interested in what people talked about him and I was least interested in people so we kind of got along.

Now after like 3 years of not being in touch I feel like I was wrong about that guy, he is not as confused as he may seems. He actually thinks I am sorted in the head and it self proves that he lost this brain some time back.

He really think I have answers of everything. He thinks because my mom does Yoga I would know about it in detail, because I believe in energy fields and I can talk about it I have more information then the guru's who talk on T.V. He is completely mad. He is also a question bank. I am not joking I am very serious about this. He could ask u a question on the most basic things in life like why is the sky so blue? Why are there so many stupid people around me all the time? How is it that u Mallika are so full of energy at the end of the day? Where does this energy come from? All that I feel like doing in answer to these one hundred and thirty questions is :P and in response to the face I make he say that I have given up and I have no answer for him. He just doesn't get the point.

Today for that matter I asked him what he thought about the blog I wrote yesterday night. He called me back, we were talking in generally, which again included questions such as, Have u ever had a head ache because of ur mom or dad? Have u had a head ache because of a boring class at the end of the day in school, etc.. So somewhere in between the question I lost interest in tell him some thing important that had happened today, instead I told him that I was bored. I am sure by know u have guessed what must have been his next line.... yes it was "There must be a reason why ur bored so what is it?" So my point being there is not point in trying to get him to stop asking question.

Ajinkya Wadhwa is one in a million, I wouldn't ex-change him for anything. When I am irritate he is more irritating then the thing that was irritating me in the first place. He is a brainy guy but keeps making me think that I am smarter then him. (not that it isn't true) He is walking in the right direction since college and today he can stand up and face the strong winds that will come his way without fear. I can talk to him about anything under the sun and know that he is not judging me for what I have done or will do. He is open minded and closed as a person at the same time, I sometimes wonder how that works. Hmm.. There are very few people in front of whom u can be urself all the time or even talk ur mind out to and he is one of them. I am certain if u meet him, u would say the same thing. That doesn't change the fact that he has bad timing though. :P

And to end this blog on Ajinkya, I just want him to know that no matter what he thinks about my brain power, I know for a fact that if he puts his mind to work one day he will be one of those billionaires we keep reading about in newspaper. The key to his success would be giving it his hundred percent. He can corn u into believing that u are smart, talented and full of energy. U better be careful of him ;)

P.S I forgot to mention Ajinkya's doesn't understand when I am joking with him. I need to keep tell him that I am joking Arrgghhhhhhhhh... He just s...s

Thanks for the time u have take to read this blog, I hope u enjoyed reading it and I'm as always sorry for the mistakes in the blog. U guys know my problem by now. :D

P.S.S I still don't know why people in college didn't like him. Hmmm.. if any of u remember feel free to leave a comment.

Films

Some films make u think. I dont know whether thats a good thing or not. I like thinking that we watch film to forget ur day to day troubles but sometimes I like watching film that make sense. However I think they need to make film that make u think on positive lines, one such motion picture that I have seen is Social Networking.

It make one see how there are some people out there with more brain power then half of us put together. Make us wonder whether we could ever hope to influence anyone life or make a positive social change.

This film makes u see the difference between showing it, wanting it, and doing (being) it. When u have a good idea u just have one and only the smart one out of us can make these idea into reality.

Anyhow that shouldn't stop us from dreaming. I think the key element in the idea business (if I may call it so) is to be the first cause who on earth remembers the person who come second.

This world is full of sharks and being in the idea business is not a joke. We all want to have frame, power and money on ur side. Only a few of us have the luck need to have all of this. Today facebook is one of the most loved site and deleting ur account on this site is like almost like social suicide in the words of Shakti Shetty.

The brains that are need to make a idea a reality is so difficult to find. In most business it takes more then an idea to make it a reality, thats the mess up, one need re-sources, man power and people that one can trust but trust is subjective it doesn't mean blind faith, it means willingness to agree and disagree on this without holding anything against each other. But at the end of the day knowing that in a business one is on his own and should look out for one self.

Some of us know how to look after urself but forget about the others, but that not a problem at the end of the day it a team game so all of us should be equal and in the end we all shall be.

If I ever start a business of my own I hope that I come across a good bunch of pitfall right in the beginning so that in the long run I have a less scope of mistakes and more scope of success.

Cause each of us is defined by the mistakes and achievement that we have made in our personal and professional lifes. But most importantly our professional ones.

I hope that at the end of the day each one of us can dream about a beautiful future. I hope that I can in my professional life reach success at no one as see or heard of. I want to open my wings and fly, I want to touch the sky.

Know that's the effect a movie should have one u, cause it makes u want to dream, want and apply the knowledge that one as been give.

Thank u for taking the time to read my blog. Hope you have like it and I am sorry for the mistakes at may be made while writing this one. Cause I have not checked it from anyone for spelling mistakes or grammar ones for that matter.

CONFIDANCE

These days I have started to believe that there is something wrong with me. I have a problem I need answers and to be very honest I don’t know whether I like the answer so in a way I don’t want them either is that easy to understand or normal for that matter.

U know what this is right, its lack of self confidence specking. And self confidence is something that we should have in today world. But do you and I have it. Can you stand in front of someone who barely knows you but is talking negative things about u and not believe them. NO I know for sure that the human mind believes negative faster than the positive. That is when self confidence plays an important role. We need to know what we are good at something for that matter we need to believe that we are good at something.

What I’m trying to say is that every person has his strong and weak points but that does not mean that we should forget that we are just humans and that perfection is something that only God has on his side. We as humans are good at only few thing and we need to be confident about these things and remember them when someone shows us our draw backs.

If u think that you’re not good that anything, then u need to take a closer look inside yourself. We are all good at something. You know I come across to be pretty dumb when I am talking and most of the people who are close to me have told me this, I used to feel and still feel very bad about this, but now I started to believe that the only way I can come across as someone how as a brain is in my writing. I find that I am confident about my writing and even though I have a lot of scope to improve, I am till confident that I can write. So I found writing to be something that I am good at. It keeps me happy when someone tells me that I have ones again put my foot into my month, my only thought is we I get home I will write something, that will make a lot of sense and then I will feel better and the confidences will come back . It also means that I need to learn to come across to be smart talker and a smart mind also because I am not dumb no matter what they think after the first time I talk to them. Now this is what you call CONFIDANCE.

So you see not everyone is perfect but confidence and help you to overcome your difficulties. I was also confident that ones I write this I will come to the answers I really want. You know what? The answers are always inside you all u need is to know the way to get to them. But as you know CONFIDANCES ALWAYS LEADS THE WAY.

Now I hope I have come across to be a smart person… lol…. I also hope that this blog has helped you to understand yourself or someone you know better. I it has help u, I am glad you could read this and I could be of help. If this has helped you understand someone close to you, maybe you should ask them to read this too. Cause that way u would help me…. THANK YOU…

CELEBRATING EACH DAY WITH LOVE...

Today all around me everyone was celebrating the love they have for each other and I was looking at them as a person who does not understand why we need a day to celebrate love. Why can’t we just enjoy the love we have for the other person every day? Why wait for this one day?

Is LOVE something that we can only celebrate on days like Valentine’s Day or on the anniversary of a wedding/relationship. Is there not a need to celebrate every moment in our life, should we only wait for these days to come or should we enjoy and bask in its galore everyday of our lives?

On a day to day base we take each other for granted, we fight, we have bitter emotions, we almost make each other’s life living hell and then when these days come up it like you forget the rest and for the world u celebrate. On the other hand if we just spend nice time with each other and enjoy every second spend together will it not be a better gift then the ones give on a special occasion. Each little gesture would be a gift, a holding of hands when u cross the road, a little smile on a personal joke, a hug when ur happy, the holding of ur loved one when he or she is upset, making ur someone laugh when he is in the worst of moods, the shine in one’s eyes when you meet after a long time.

I think each person has his own thinking and mine is subjected to change, for sometimes I think we need these special days because we sometimes forget to show the other person his important and on these days we can make each other feel loved. In our day to day life we are all after growth, money, enrichment of life and things that in today world have taken the place that love and family used to have in one’s life.

But that still does not stop me from wanting to see a world in which love would be celebrated on a daily base; love is one thing that can fulfill a person’s life. It completes the individual’s life making one feel one’s emotions on a great level.

As most practical people will say ones one’s career is in place the rest will fall in on its own. I am hoping these people are right, because sometimes I feel they might just get a little late. All I hope is that we all find that special someone on day and that we celebrate each moment with them without taking it for granted. Love is a very difficult thing to find, ones u find it one should look after it the best one can.

I wish life was as simple as I wanted then there would be no ego or super ego. I wish there were thing that could make love work its magic every second of the day. I wish some relationship did not end the way they do. I miss the magic of love sometimes but then I think of the good memories I have and say it was the right thing to do. For sometimes new memories have to be made and who knows maybe the next time u get a chance to celebrate each second.

I hope that my writing inspires you to fall in love and celebrated it the best u can. I also know that every relationship has its own ups and downs and that after every down there is an up. This is what makes life interesting but don’t forget to celebrate it, they will make the good memories for u to look back on when ur old…..

You may think that in the middle of this piece I have gone to negative about relationship but I was talking about the worst of the feeling one goes through when loved one’s are fighting. I am not talking about my personal life or anyone else it’s just an outlook that I choose to write about… Thank u…

May God Bless u. Happy Celebrating. :D